4 Ways You May Be Manipulating and You Didn't Know It

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Sunday, 13 September 2015

We want things in life…well at least most of us do. And the thing is, it is hard not to be attached to those wants, and desires. In fact, we may be so attached to power, control, or desire, that we can end up manipulating.

In my temple system lineage, the Dolphin Star Higher Council, we were asked to commit to being impeccable as a person. This doesn't mean perfect, but it does mean abiding by certain values because they not only keep us evolving, but they also help us hold a certain frequency for the planet. So, today I wanted to bring up the subtle ways we can get caught going into lower vibration. Manipulation is the kind of thing that might not always be dark magic, because it doesn't necessarily wish evil upon a person; but it is not light either. It's in between…grey. It is no different than a sorcerer using a spell to make someone do something beyond their free will. If it is done using words or lies…then be aware you are working out of the light.

When working with others, I find this to be quite prevalent in the group consciousness on this planet…so I thought it would be a good one to address for us all to check within and ask, how much do I participate in this? Check below to see if you have ever done these behaviors.

1. Buttering Someone Up. This happens when you know there is something you want from someone, and so you offer something you think they want, but it is not from a pure place. In fact, you don't care about the success or bringing kindness to the person at all. Your intention is solely to get what you need from them and thus the giving is self-serving. This is not to say we can't have win-win's in life. We can, but when you know in your heart you deliberately are thinking, "How can I make this person do what I want?", then you have left the realm of win-win, and gone into manipulation.

2. Obligation. This one is similar to the one above, except if you have done something for someone, and you feel they owe you now. In fact, perhaps you may even create a situation where you do something just so you can get what you want through creating a frequency of guilt in the interaction. Oh boy, when you enter this realm, you are going down a path of unnecessary turmoil for you attract people who will eventually fight back when they feel you have laid a guilt trip on them too much. Suddenly you are in a psychic fight where people don't want to feel caught under your thumb.

3. Facade. This is when a person creates the appearance that they are accepting of you or something you like or do, but really they are going to try to control your behavior anyway. Perhaps a father wants his son to not play a sport. He may tell the son you can play it, but then when its time to play it, he is only allowed to do it in the backyard. Thus, rather than telling the true feelings and helping his son understand his concerns about the sport (ie. football and brain injury), he has made it appear like his child is free, while truly still restricting and controlling him. Eventually, people catch on to this one, and it will create animosity in relationships.

4. Create a Story. Last, but not least, this is another way of saying: lying. White lie, or big lie, it is out of integrity because it is a way to manipulate, and even worse, bend someone's will against their permission. If you lie to get what you want, it might be to convince someone of something you want to do that they might otherwise say no to. However, creating a story makes it a lot easier. You don't have to deal with their "no", and you can also make them feel like they have to say yes. For example, you may create a dire situation to make sure people think it is an exceptional situation, an extenuating circumstance, thereby causing them to say "yes" this one time.

White lies may not seem like a big deal, but they do 2 things. They create a pattern of doing that to get out of uncomfortable situations which stops us from learning to speak our truth, and to work things out. They also as a result build a web around the energy field that eventually turns into something that looks like a spider web of negative energy because they have a cumulative effect.

See how intricate this dynamic can get? The fact of the matter is, it is a way of devolving (did I coin a word?). You can learn to be with the flow of the Universe, co-create, and detach from desire which will ultimately make you free. Or you can live your life following every whim or impulse, a slave. When we begin to speak the truth of what we need, and sometimes get what we want, and sometimes not, we learn that this Universe was meant to be a cocreation of allowing and harmony. We learn to share and this, my people, makes a better world.

With love,

Ariah