When someone is going through deep pain. When they feel rejected, betrayed, abandoned, or wronged, suggesting for them to "forgive," or "view it through the eyes of love" is insensitive.

It makes them feel not validated. Not seen and heard.

It also makes them feel ashamed of the pain they're not yet able to transmute.

I'm not talking about people who actively wallow in pain, or who play victim to life. Those people are choosing to marinate in ego.

I'm speaking about people who have suddenly experienced deep pain — the ending of a relationship, or deep connection where they felt left broken.

When we are wronged, our solar plexus chakra rises up to protect us. That's why, when a relationship ends, we're often filled with anger (not only grief).

The solar plexus chakra is saying, "No! I was wronged. My energy system was misused!"

If you try to bypass this important step (anger), and jump straight to forgiveness, you aren't listening to your intuition and your solar plexus. You aren't learning how you let yourself end up where you did. You aren't valuing yourself, your precious energy, and the precious time on earth you have left as a soul in an energy field.

Say yes to the anger coursing through your veins when you're in break-up pain. Actively emotionally regulate it. Thank your solar plexus chakra for it.

And when the time is right, you will find you have already forgiven, and that you didn't need to do anything for it.

— Belinda

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