Is Ecoism Holding You Back from True Connection?

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Friday, 15 November 2024

Written by Marcela Lobos

Is Ecoism Holding You Back from True Connection?

Today it is common to hear about narcissism, for all the right reasons.

We learn to be cautious with people’s narcissistic attitudes but, equally important, we can also recognize our own narcissistic tendencies.

In order to understand narcissism, it’s good to remember that the theory springs from an ancient Greek myth about a young hunter named Narcissus, known for his extraordinary beauty and vanity. Furthermore, it is important to also recall Echo, the nymph who became enamored with Narcissus.

The young Narcissus was so attractive that many fell in love with him, but he showed arrogance and disdain toward all suitors, including Echo.

The gods, offended by Narcissus’ vanity, decided to punish him. One day, while hunting, Narcissus came across a clear pool. When he bent down to drink, he saw his own reflection and was struck by its beauty. Unaware that it was merely an image, he fell deeply in love with the lovely youth.

Charmed by the gods, Narcissus was so entranced by his vision that he could not break away. Gazing endlessly into the pool, in the end he uttered, “Oh marvelous boy, I loved you in vain, farewell,” and drowned.

This ancient tale offers us wisdom about the dangers of excessive pride, vanity, and self-love. It highlights the consequences of ignoring the needs and feelings of others, and points out the destructive potential of being consumed by one’s own image.

People who exhibit narcissistic traits often:

Have a grandiose sense of self-importance.
Require constant admiration and validation.
Feel entitled to special treatment and privileges.
Lack empathy and struggle to recognize or identify with the feelings of others.
Have difficulty accepting criticism and may react with anger or defensiveness.
Manipulate others to achieve their own goals.

You can stop here for a moment and reflect honestly if any of these behaviors apply to you or to anyone you engage with in a regular basis.

If you recognize in yourself these attributes, you can seek guidance to help you evolve towards a more empathic relationship with the world. In the end, it will save you and your love ones a lot of suffering.

In the other hand, if you find yourself caught in a relationship with someone who carries those traits you may want to reflect on Echo’s archetypal character.

Known for her beauty and for her singing, Echo had a gift for storytelling and witty remarks until she was cursed by the goddess Hera who had been jealous of her husband Zeus’ romantic escapes. Echo had been using her virtues to distract the vigilant Hera with long and elaborate conversations so Zeus could mischievously visit the forest and flirt with the nymphs.

When Hera eventually discovered this ruse, she was furious with Echo’s deceit and cursed her by taking away her freedom of speech. From that moment on, Echo could only repeat the last words spoken to her by others, rendering her unable to express her own thoughts or emotions.

When Echo fell in love with Narcissus, she was unable to express her own feelings and could only repeat his words. Further, when Narcissus eventually noticed her and harshly rejected her attention, Echo was distraught and retreated into the wilderness, pining away until only her voice remained. According to legend, her echoing voice continues to be heard, repeating the sounds and words of those who call out in lonely places.

Echo’s fate can help us reflect on how people who develop a co-dependent relationship with a narcissistic person might develop a tendency to affirm what the other one says instead of voicing one’s own needs. The motives for developing Echo traits can be many, but at the core is low self-esteem and glibly falling into the manipulations of the other.

Understanding the Narcissus – Echo dynamic is crucial for breaking the toxic cycle of co-dependency between these two personalities. Of course, the next step is to continue cultivating awareness and learning strategies to grow out of these harmful patterns.

How does Narcissus or Echo show up in your life?

Marcela Lobos

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Alberto Villoldo PhD is a medical anthropologist who has spent the last 30 years investigating the healing practices of the shamans of the Amazon and the Andes. He is the founder and director of the Four Winds Society, and author of Shaman, Healer, Sage, Mending the Past and Healing the Future with Soul Retrieval, The Four Insights and Yoga, Power and Spirit. Alberto is founder of the world-renowned Four Winds Society and of the Light Body School. In his teachings and writings, he shares the experience of infinity and its ability to heal and transform us, to free us from the temporal chains that keep us fettered to illness, old age and disease.

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